[MMOs] A Little Less Conversation – A Little More Action Please

In my last post I ranted at length about how Guild Wars 2 launched without any conversation starters. Now I don’t mean ‘talking points’, such as how the low-level armour for casters was a little off-putting (I mean really, you want my bad-ass Norn to wear frilly knickers?) What I’m referring to is the lack of ‘social nudges’. I pondered on this topic a little bit in the Guild Wars 2 specific post, but it’s obviously still on my mind. I love to converse with my friends, especially in person. I used to enjoy gaming with friends, but for whatever reason that isn’t a current part of my play style.

It appears to me, from my outsider perspective, that game designers often talk about how to solve the social problems in MMOs. How do you solve griefing? You remove the points of competition, except in arenas where it is appropriate for there to be player vs player conflict. How do you get players to cooperate? You provide benefits for aiding in a kill, you enable the joining of groups automatically or with a few clicks. Or you remove the concept of ‘grouping’ entirely.

So players play ‘together’. Yet they don’t often talk. It is the act of conversing that enables a situation to form where a more permanent bond can form. Without conversation, the exchange of text and ideas and emotion, you do not get the creation of persistent networks. Think about how lonely guild chat gets. It is those networks that create ‘social stickiness’ within a game.

While Warcraft has all the hallmarks of convenience these days, it certainly started out with a lot of dialogue surrounding the very act of creating a group. Whatever the game looks like now, it started out with many more conversations inherent in the way players interacted with each other. I must point out that this was absolutely not unique in the MMO genre at the time, so I’m not saying this is why WoW is successful. I’m just pointing out that this was a condition inherent in it’s formative years. Along with griefing, and bugs, and 40 man raids, and many other things that seem antiquated and inconvenient now. While Warcraft’s massive popularity was certainly not due to this creation of dialogue in the player base, the fact that there was conversation is one that has helped to result in the general ‘stickiness’ of the player base.

People like me dabble in other games, but WoW hangs at the back of our minds because so many of our friends are there. Or they still have connections there.

Games these days are launching with less nudges for clunky text exchanges. They’re launching with no need to converse over forming a group, even if in the ‘old world’ prior to LFG systems this would have been a short hand trade channel advert.

Words have power, and when your gaming experience lacks either the written word or the verbal one, it becomes inherently less social. Yes, playing together does not inherently need communication - Journey and various other games show us that. But for those other characters on the screen to become more than NPCs to us, the players behind need to communicate. Otherwise other players are simply ‘there’.

Now, I don’t always want to talk to anyone in my games. Games shouldn’t HAVE to involve awkward social situations after all. Yet, I feel this is an avenue which is neglected. Fan-made works – art, videos, podcasts, blogs, and social networks spread the stickiness of the game because it creates dialogue between players and fans outside the game. Perhaps we need to look more at how conversations are facilitated and created within games.

[TW] Way to miss the point, Geek Chic Cosmetics (updated)

Approximately 8 hours after I post this article originally, and following lengthy discussions on twitter, Geek Chic Cosmetics have posted this apology. Hopefully they will continue to learn from this experience!

On the continued theme of make-up and geeks, a few of my friends on twitter noticed that Geek Chic Cosmetics had a lip gloss with a ‘charming’ name, and emailed in to protest about the propagation of rape culture. Some engaged with the company over twitter, and then also sent emails in. They decided to respond in a very snide and dismissive manner. I am even less impressed with this response than I was with finding out the original name. I’ve not ordered anything from the company, as me wearing makeup is a pretty rare event.

Plus I don’t really see the point in wearing make-up that is pretty much the same as any other vegan make up out there, just with some ‘geek’ names and themes and extra costs through customs. However I am a talkative geek who happens to be a woman on the internets, and is otherwise relatively feminine in my tastes so seeing a company that aligns itself with ‘geek’ and ‘women’ behave this way is very much a facepalm moment.

Trying to please everyone

So what is a tiny 3 person operation to do? The same thing we do every night, Pinky. Try to please as many people as we can, as often as we can. It’s entirely possible that we have lost more potential happy customers to this accidental offense. While we don’t share the displeasure reported over the name of the item, we don’t have to in order to be sensitive and adjust, if it’s called for.

I’d like to point out that removing references to ‘joke rape’ from products marketed mainly to women is not about ‘pleasing everyone’. Leaving the reference in is hurtful to women. In some cases it might be an out and out trigger (which is not the same as finding a topic distasteful, so please don’t accuse people of pearl clutching.) Taking the bad pun out hurts no one. Leaving it in is somewhat alienating and dismissive. Disappointing a few customers who like a pun is not the same as being respectful of your customer base at large and the issues that face women everywhere.

Understanding rape culture

Finally, like we have to say it, the assertion that we condone rape or belong to the “rape culture” is absolutely untrue. We can’t address an issue that you don’t voice. Geek Chic Cosmetics is not a faceless, nameless, corporate entity. It’s a small business run by those three very human beings above. To reiterate our open door policy, email us first, give us a day before you unleash the hounds on us. We’re here for you.

You’re not faceless, but you’re reacting in a way that completely misunderstands the criticisms and issues surrounding rape culture.  By keeping such a name in the product line, Geek Chic Cosmetics is participating in rape culture – even though of course the individuals involved wouldn’t condone the trivialisation of rape. That casual parody and normalisation of rape is exactly what ‘rape culture’ is, just as beauty standards in the media make idealised bodies the new ‘normal’.

A lot of this stuff is internalised. I really wish companies would not underestimate this.

The privilege of politeness and professionalism

As a professional I am not obliged to put up with abuse from companies, but when a customer (potential or otherwise) is legitimately angry about something I’d probably be expected to suck it up and handle it as professional as possible at my end of things. If a contact is that angry about something, I’m not allow to be snarky or anything back.  We’d all appreciate it if all contact with us was civil manner, but asking for professionalism from non-professionals is a bit snide in a retail environment.

In an ideal world we wouldn’t react to things that matter to us with strong emotions. Oh wait. Rape and discussion of rape culture is likely to invoke strong emotions. Think about how it feels to be ‘accused’ of participating in rape culture; it shouldn’t be hard to extrapolate a little empathy for the feelings of your critics from that, should it? Casting a customer (potential or otherwise) who has a strong reaction to the marketing of one of your products as the straw-woman Angry Feminist Mob is a silencing tactic, plain and simple.

Plus, when it’s only one tweet, and not from the original tweeter/person who raised the query, it looks a little facetious ask for professionalism as part of a general public post that is supposedly addressing the concerns raised. You’re trivialising those who are made uncomfortable by the product name from the outset.

Don’t patronise your customers

Explaining the source of hentai and the original pun to your geek customers is just going to make you look like you’re patronising. If you want to engage with your customers, a little more research than a quote from cosplaydeviants would be good for starters. While I completely agree that equating the virtual and the real is not right, saying that the virtual exists in a vacuum is a little naive.

I’m well aware what the pun refers to, of the historical context. The context doesn’t obscure or render it neutral and harmless. Removing the name hurts no one – it’s not like the Geek Chic website will lose it’s multitude of fun, geeky, snarky comments that help to give the brand it’s personality by removing one name. And if it makes even 1 woman less uncomfortable, then that’s a good thing.

In conclusion

Marketing your geek products should be as much about managing your brand as ‘pleasing’ individual customers. Right now the picture is of an independent company that lacks sensitivity when dealing with complaints that touch on issues important to a core customer base. Reacting defensively to angry customers is inevitably a misstep, and kinda, yanno, looks like you’re defending your participation in rape culture out of ignorance. It is possible to respond better.

And inviting a vote with unmoderated comments? Oh dear. Some of the casual misogyny going on in that thread, in a space condoned by Geek Chic Cosmetics, is just as bad. So. Um. Trigger warning for the comments there. Internalised misogyny, how does it work.

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Update

As of the evening of 9th April, GCC added the following edit to their original public response.

Edit: Hey guys! I just wanted to thank you all for your input. We are taking this issue very seriously, and considering all feedback. We’ve made mistakes, and we will learn from this in the future. We’re an ever-evolving company that deeply cares about the opinion of our customer. There is no way to please all people, but we’re taking it all in and figuring out where to go from here. Just remember – be excellent to each other. Lots of differing opinions on this subject, we welcome all views. We are listening.

 

 

Some Jokes Just Aren’t Funny (a thank you to Blizzard)

Blizzard finally steps up with zero tolerance on offensive names.

To ensure all participants in the Arena Tournament have the best experience possible, there will be a zero-tolerance policy for any inappropriate character or Arena team names created on the Arena Tournament realm.

Characters with inappropriate names will be deleted. This means that you will need to customize another template from scratch and re-earn all personal and hidden ratings. Keep in mind that in a later phase of the Arena Tournament team rosters will be locked down. If your character is deleted during this time, no exceptions will be made and your team will need to use whoever is left on that roster in order to continue competing.

Arena teams with names deemed inappropriate will be dissolved. This means that you will need to create another charter for your team and climb back up from a rating of zero.
Please think twice before naming your characters and Arena teams!

Thank you Blizzard. An awful lot of crap names slip through the net on normal realms. I’m glad to see a zero-tolerance policy on the Arena Tournament.

I am unbelievably lucky. I’m in a very gender-balanced guild. While jokes may be lewd, they’re not homophobic, racist or sexist. If a bloke does make a sexist joke, he generally knows better and is just trying to tweak the nose of one of our female guildies. I have never EVER seen anyone assume that a bad player was a girl, or assume that because someone was a woman, that they would be a bad player.

Maybe I’m just more cynical these days, or maybe I’m getting angry in my ‘old’ age. I find my tolerance for certain types of jokes growing gradually smaller, and I’m less likely to let them slide. Perhaps it is because I’m not as afraid of being seen as ‘overly PC’, or a ‘harpy’ or anyone of a number of insults used against people who object to -ist slurs and language. ‘PC gone nuts’ is a regular phrase, whipped out whenever someone gets called on their ableism or sexism (or any other -ism).  Derailing for Dummies covers many of the not so great arguments used. Linguistic Reform seems like an impossible task. How do you stop every teenage boy in the world using ‘gay’ to mean something is bad? You can’t, but that doesn’t mean you can’t point out the problems inherent with using words like gypped, lame, or retarded.

Quoting the dictionary origins of words and citing their historical use doesn’t really change the fact that such words are problematic. Maybe your gay friend isn’t offended, but others certainly will be. Straight people who accept homosexuality as a normal part of humanity will find the use of ‘gay’ as a slur distasteful and offensive. As someone with mental health issues, a lot of everyday language that has it’s roots in mental disability or illness doesn’t ‘offend me’, but becoming more aware of how problematic some words are reminds me of the stigma that is still attached to mental illness, and disabilities in general. (Please note that I am not saying that someone using the word retarded is being malicious towards those with mental retardation, or that someone saying their hip is giving them gyp is intentionally being racist.)

Now this is not to say that you need to spend your life watching how you speak. A lot of people wouldn’t care even if you did. But a ‘sense of humour’ is not the same for everyone. We don’t all find the same things funny; or if we do it is because we recognise that the joke highlights something particularly dark and uncomfortable.

‘Sapped Girls Don’t Say No’ is not funny. Jokes that trivialise or glamorise rape are not funny. Jokes that target the raper, rather than the raped, and make them an object of derision? I can see the humour in that.

It is very easy to be defensive and dismissive about -ist use of language. Especially if you personally feel you are something of an enlightened, tolerant, intelligent individual who would never dream of discriminating against anyone, or putting those. Any insult is grounded in something ‘bad’ or ‘other’ – body shame, internalised sexism, fear of being not-normal, so asking someone to find a substitute for every ‘bad’ word is impossible. Even non-slur phrases have a certain amount of ableism in them (“I hear you” and “I see”, seemingly innocuous to those of us with our hearing and vision intact. No, again, not asking you to drop those phrases from your vocabulary.)

Something of a ramble again! Back to the topic – the arena zero tolerance policy.  The response on the forums so far has been low key – predictably with some people going THANK GOD BLIZZARD and others going TAKE A CHILL PILL DON’T GET OFFENDED. Yay for dismissiveness.

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(And apologies to those coming here looking for Elemental Shaman stuff. I’m not able to play WoW for another week or so, so my Shaman posts are waiting until I can get online to take relevant screenshots.)