This is a personal post, and somewhat rambly. This blog will return to elemental shaman stuff shortly. If you’re wondering where I’ve been, I’ve been co-hosting the Obscurecast along with Gazimoff of Mana Obscura and I left my authenticator at his house after the great Blizzcon weekend podcast-a-thon. I’ve also been extremely busy with my day job, and with raiding now finished in my guild, an old problem of mine has re-emerged.
The kids in the halls and the pipes in the walls
Make me noises for company
Long distance callers make long distance calls
And the silence makes me lonelyLost in the Supermarket by The Clash
World of Warcraft is like a supermarket. A British one, specifically, except prettier. Whenever I go to a supermarket I lose a lot of my impulse control, and I lose the ability to focus. It’s been like this since I was very small. Something about the bright lights and colours caused something of a sensory overload and I wander around in a bit of a trance. To combat this as an adult I’ve had to cultivate some techniques in order to achieve grocery shopping. Usually they involve getting my partner to go instead, because is impulse control is better than mine. Alternatively I have to be very driven to acquire something in particular, as opposed to ‘groceries’ in general. If I go in to do the weekly shop I’ll come out with cake, some salami, 3 cans of baked beans, wensleydale cheese, assorted pretzels and an egg whisk (we have 5.) If I go in to achieve baking powder or fabric conditioner, for example, I’ll come out with a decent bag of shopping but forget those items in particular.
It will also take me an hour to pick up 5 items, because I’ll get distracted by pineapples. And then by tea towels.
Warcraft is very much like a supermarket for me at the moment. I don’t have a specific activity to log on for, such as raids. I do have multiple tasks I wish to do – such as practise my abysmal PvP so the commenters over at WoW Insider don’t pull me apart on my first Elemental PvP column over there. Or drop herbalism and level alchemy. I’ve always got multiple strands of research going on, such from gender/sexuality/ethics related looks at the new quests in beta, to item lists for future blog posts, to attempting to get in on a raid so I can actually see the new bosses.
And then there are cool Elemental Invasions going on, and I want to be a part of that.
I’m playing catch up at the moment, because I left my authenticator at Obscurecast mission control, following the epic An Obscure All Things Blizzcon podcasting weekend. I’m thus a little out of the habit of playing WoW, and am missing some of the drive and goals that keep my play time efficient and fun. So yesterday I log in to try and do one or more of these things I listed. I am not completely certain what I actually did, but I believe it involved flying around in circles, mainly around Zul’drak. At the end of the evening I logged off, frustrated with myself and wondering what I had been doing all evening that I had achieved precisely zero. Not only that, but I have very little memory of what I was actually doing. I know I answered some guildies questions in guild chat, and I know I rode my Cenarion War Hippogryph around in circles outside the Sapphire Hive. But somehow three whole hours have gone, and not in a ‘where DID the time go?’ type of way.
I should have been writing, I should have been cleaning the bathroom or doing laundry. Or packing, because we’re due to move right after New Years. I should have been doing so many things, and Warcraft is a legitmate activity for me to be doing, but the lack of habit and drive has rendered it hypnotic and trance inducing to me. Between all the activities that I could and should be doing, I am left vacantly staring at the bright colours and pretty pictures. Literally wandering around in circles, and not even really looking at what I’m doing or where I am.
Is this normal? Well everyone procrastinates and wastes time. That much is pretty normal. However my entire life has this issue. It’s not the lack of want to focus, or even a lack of things to focus on, it’s just that without certain triggers and habits it becomes almost an impossibility. This applies to work, travel, chores, and even my leisure time. This was a massive problem for me in school, and it’s very hard to pin down and explain to people. It is very easy for friends and family to turn around and say ‘buck up‘ or ‘concentrate‘ and ‘everyone procrastinates, you just need to have some discipline.’ If it was as simple as ‘learning to prioritise’, I would be living my life like that all the time.
There are good days and there are bad days. I am a productive member of society, I pay my taxes, I have friends, I work (just about), and do my best to be a good friend and daughter. I often fail, but I work hard at not failing. The attention difficulties are something I’ve always lived with and am only, in the last 2 years, learning to cope with. The seeming passivity it results in is hard to explain, but that is why I generally don’t write about it in detail.






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Jaedia at http://menagerie.jaedia.net/
Honestly? If I didn’t make goals and write myself lists, I would have the exact same problem. If I do food shopping I have to have a list and I cannot stray away from the list no matter what else I come home with chocolate, and candles, and other useless things that waste my money. In game, I have to set myself goals else I level one alt, then another, then I pvp, then I level another alt, then I go herbing, get bored, log off, and so on. I’m just glad goals and lists help, because without a strict plot laid out in front of me and daily/weekly wordcount goals, I’d have no chance of reaching the end.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 11:24am.
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Wulfy at http://thebarrenschat.wordpress.com/
Oh yeah, this is normal. Or at least, I have found myself doing this a lot. Many are the hours I have spent simply flying around Northrend, looking at all the pretty. Similarly in TBC, I remember in the 6 months of pre-expansion lull, I still played several hours a day, not even sure what I was doing – gathering herbs mostly I think?
It’s not an entirely bad thing, in fact it can be quite therapeutic. But it is times like that, when I snap out of a three-hour reverie, that I wonder if I am a bit addicted to WoW.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 11:29am.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@Jaedia – Yes. I know a lot of people who are able to use lists and so on to keep themselves focused on what needs to be done. The trouble I encounter is that I can make lists until the cows come home, intend to stick to them (and attempt to) but at the end of the day I’m at the mercy of either what I end up fixating on (egg whisks, apparently) or whether I fixate at all (e.g. the zoning out issue, which is something that also happens at work.)
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 11:36am.
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Jaedia at http://menagerie.jaedia.net/
@Pewter – Oh, zoning out is another issue entirely! That’s the reason I need absolute quiet (maybe a couple of machines running, but music/talking/noise, no) to be able to read and write. Otherwise I lose all concentration and give up. It’s the reason I’m struggling with nano. The reason I can’t listen for long periods of time – I’d love to get into podcasts and audio books but I can’t physically listen for more than 5 minutes without zoning out. It really bugs me, especially when I’m being told something important!
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 11:45am.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@Jaedia – Perversely, sometimes the quiet will make me zone out even more, even when I’m actively ‘attempting to focus’. We all cope in different ways, I think, and I’m glad I’m not alone in this difficulty, I just wish I wasn’t so easily beaten by it.
@Wulfy – I’m certainly not saying a bit of Dalaran bunny hopping isn’t normal, I suppose that was more of a question to myself. And I know my ‘wow playing’ is balanced out with other things in my life, so I don’t worry about it being a sign of addiction. I’m just incredibly frustrated because this inability to concentrate is currently a major obstacle in my day to day functioning. WoW may have this effect on people, but for me it’s just another arena for this particular quirk of me.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:07pm.
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Jaedia at http://menagerie.jaedia.net/
@Pewter – Just as I was about to reply I started staring out the window, that’s concentration for you. But yeah, it really depends on how tired I am. The more tired, the less I’ll concentrate (of course), no matter how quiet it is.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:17pm.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@Jaedia – I can imagine. Although when I’m hyper-focused on something I just won’t be able to sleep. I’ve sometimes wondered if it’s just my brain growing up and maturing later than the rest of me. Of course now, if I can’t keep my concentration issues under control, I could lose my job – something that wasn’t an issue as a teenager or a student.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:25pm.
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Saga at http://spellbound.nu/gdpw/
I won’t say that I have the same issue/problem – but I think I sometimes end up with the same result – albeit from a (probably) different reason. With Cataclysm getting closer I seem to find myself with more and more of those evenings of realising I’ve not actually done anything as well – and I too have lists. Dear god do I have lists.. It’s one of my problems in a way – lists can be great to organise what you want/need to do.. but for me lists are also what I make up of things I feel I *should* do – and then don’t manage to.. and then when I go to bed at night these lists will roll through my head reminding me of all the things I didn’t manage to do. This, of course, is not just WoW – but for other things too.
I have explanations for why I do (or rather don’t do) the things I want to do – but it doesn’t always make a difference when you feel that you should have done more. Maybe what we need is to accept that we’re the way we are.. and just realise that we will have evenings/days like that… though that is of course a lot easier said than done..
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:26pm.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@Saga – Oh god yes, a guilt loop, thank you for bringing that up. Trying to push yourself to do more because you don’t feel you’ve done enough. Part of the reason I wanted to write about this concentration issue is that I wanted to nail it down and accept it. I’ve long been struggling with the idea that I’m going to have to accept that I’m not going to be living at the same rate as many of my friends (who all have mortgages and kids on the way.)
Learning to accept myself, warts and all. It’s not definitely not easy. ‘Explanations’ only go so far, and tend to result in ‘every one procrastinates’ type answers, which feels very much akin to a ‘bootstraps’ situation.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:33pm.
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gevlon at http://greedygoblin.blogspot.com
Write lists and go over them point by point. NEVER go to the supermarket without a shopping list and swear an oath to buy nothing but the things on the list.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:34pm.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@gevlon – Yus, I am aware of this method, although I appreciate the refresher course
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:46pm.
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Wulfy at http://thebarrenschat.wordpress.com/
@Pewter –
Oh the addiction part was more of a personal note, because WoW and gaming in general is not at all balanced with my own life, it is my life.
I didn’t really make it clear above, but what I was trying to say above (before I’d had my coffee) that its both normal WoW behaviour and normal RL behaviour to me. For me its not supermarkets, I tend to get through them by a system of repetition, always buying the same things. But I frequently find myself too caught up in imaginary worlds to actually get anything achieved in my life. I’m afraid I don’t have many ideas on solutions though, except finding a system that works for you, be it lists, repetition or otherwise.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 12:48pm.
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Pewter at http://mentalshaman.com
@Wulfy – Ah, I see. Do you ever find that certain solutions or systems lose their effectiveness over time?
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 1:12pm.
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Saga at http://spellbound.nu/gdpw
I do feel that the acceptance thing is the key. Those guilt loops are not beneficial for anyone, but they’re just sooo hard to get away from.
I used to be powering forwards with a good career and everything in my life (more or less) sorted. I’ve hit a bump in the road in regards to personal health and am now sort of finding my footing again. Accepting that I can no longer do the things I used to do is difficult. I think in part that’s where my lists come from. I used to be able to do them, now I’m struggling to accept that I can’t.
So I think we just sort of need to come to terms with what we can and cannot expect of ourselves. In the end it varies on your current status and what you’re actually able to do, then set goals from that outlook.. rather than the outlook of “this is what I think I should do”. It’s just that whole acceptance thing that’s so difficult to get around I guess.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 10:22pm.
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Wulfy at http://thebarrenschat.wordpress.com/
@Pewter – I think they can yes. Repetition is actually a very poor one for that reason, because it becomes useless the second something changes (ie they move which aisle they keep something in the supermarket). Lists probably work better, but I don’t have much experience there.
To be honest I’m not the best person to ask. I actually take quite a bit of joy out of being rubbish at real life, because I like to be removed from it. Although there are days when I’m running around trying to fix a dozen things I messed up that my opinion changes on that issue!
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 10:52pm.
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Beruthiel at http://www.fallingleavesandwings.wordpress.com
I don’t have a lot to add to the comments above, per se.
However, I did want to share the very first thought that came into my head upon the reading of this post – before even expanding the post and seeing the quote: “Someone else is a Clash Fan! Yes!”. By far THE best band EVER. And kudos on picking on of their lesser known, but completely awesome songs!
Of course, now it’s stuck in my head! Little known fact about the song: Written by Joe Strummer – Performed by Mick Jones. But at the time of the albums release in 1979, many of those that were close to the band were shocked that it was a Joe Strummer song, as it was much more in the styling they would have expected from Mick Jones.
Now that I’ve totally gotten my Clash geek on, please return to your regularly scheduled, meaningful, conversations now! Nothing to see here! Unless of course you’d like to be further educated about the best, and most influental, band in music history! *ahem*
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 10:57pm.
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Poneria at http://felconcentration.wordpress.com
Try going to supermarkets with full bags (or, as I do, only two bags). Then you can’t pick anything up except what you need. I carry only two bags (granted, the reusable ones, which are quite roomy) because that’s all I can carry when it’s my week to park on the street (thus necessitating a little walk from car to apartment). I even start to plan out in my head how I’m going to pack the bags and what I can or can’t fit in this one with the Dr. Pepper six-pack, etc.
Don’t pick up a cart; just walk in. You can pick up one of those little baskets, especially if you don’t have reusable bags. But just give yourself a bit of a container ceiling and then you can explore the supermarket to your heart’s content. =) * well, it works for me; your mileage may vary.
I do this, but will often take hours to go to the store or, worse, Barnes & Noble. I can’t spend under 90min in a B&N; it’s just not possible to walk around everywhere.
Posted at November 3, 2010 on 11:38pm.
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Tashania
http://youarenotsosmart.com/2010/10/27/procrastination/
Of course knowing why is only half the battle
Posted at November 5, 2010 on 12:45pm.